Real Life: Queer and...?
Jul. 5th, 2010 07:15 pmHi. My name's ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
lizfu, and I'm dating a girl. Her name is Beate and she's Norwegian. The relationship is long distance (EPIC long distance - Atlantic Ocean-you-may-separate-our-bodies-but-you-cannot-separate-our-hearts!Epic), which is both good and bad. Good, because we can take things slowly. Bad, because we can't actually physically interact or go on dates or do all the adorable mooshy things that couples do.
Why am I telling my dreamroll this?
Well, my girlfriend gave me an ultimatum of sorts: tell my mom that I'm dating a girl, so that when she visits, our relationship will be in the open. If I can't, then Beate offered to help me, be supportive and hold my hand, etc. Problem: I'm not sure my mom's feelings on me being in a same sex relationship. In the past, Mom's said stuff like, "I just want you to find a nice guy - or girl - and be happy" but she's also a brainwashed conservative, and as a brainwashed conservative, she buys into the whole "marriage is sacred" argument, thinks that the LGBTQ community should keep quiet about their preferences (on the flip side, she doesn't like it when heterosexual couples express their preferences either, so part of the time, I think she's just uncomfortable with people blathering on about their significant others. It's more glaring when she goes on about her own discomfort when the person "blathering" is gay), and that they should be happy with "what they've got" as far as legal rights go. I'd prefer not to come out to my mom when I'm living under her roof. This is the woman who was adamant about kicking me out if Obama won the '08 election (my stepdad talked her out of it, as well as her threat to leave him for voting Obama).
(If you're thinking, "Hey, Liz! Why not just tell your stepdad? He seems like a pretty groovy guy!", the answer's still "No." He's not a big proponent of gay rights either)
I'm really serious about this relationship, but I don't think I'm in a place right now where I'm ready to be out with my family.
Anyhow, I'm writing a coming out post because I realized that I need to start coming out. I'm dating a wonderful girl, and I want to tell people, but my fear of being out keeps me from singing it from the hills Sound of Music style. As a solution, I'm taking babysteps.everysecondtuesday had the honor being the first to know :) Who knows? Maybe one day, I'll work up the courage and tell my mom.
lizfu, and I'm dating a girl. Her name is Beate and she's Norwegian. The relationship is long distance (EPIC long distance - Atlantic Ocean-you-may-separate-our-bodies-but-you-cannot-separate-our-hearts!Epic), which is both good and bad. Good, because we can take things slowly. Bad, because we can't actually physically interact or go on dates or do all the adorable mooshy things that couples do.Why am I telling my dreamroll this?
Well, my girlfriend gave me an ultimatum of sorts: tell my mom that I'm dating a girl, so that when she visits, our relationship will be in the open. If I can't, then Beate offered to help me, be supportive and hold my hand, etc. Problem: I'm not sure my mom's feelings on me being in a same sex relationship. In the past, Mom's said stuff like, "I just want you to find a nice guy - or girl - and be happy" but she's also a brainwashed conservative, and as a brainwashed conservative, she buys into the whole "marriage is sacred" argument, thinks that the LGBTQ community should keep quiet about their preferences (on the flip side, she doesn't like it when heterosexual couples express their preferences either, so part of the time, I think she's just uncomfortable with people blathering on about their significant others. It's more glaring when she goes on about her own discomfort when the person "blathering" is gay), and that they should be happy with "what they've got" as far as legal rights go. I'd prefer not to come out to my mom when I'm living under her roof. This is the woman who was adamant about kicking me out if Obama won the '08 election (my stepdad talked her out of it, as well as her threat to leave him for voting Obama).
(If you're thinking, "Hey, Liz! Why not just tell your stepdad? He seems like a pretty groovy guy!", the answer's still "No." He's not a big proponent of gay rights either)
I'm really serious about this relationship, but I don't think I'm in a place right now where I'm ready to be out with my family.
Anyhow, I'm writing a coming out post because I realized that I need to start coming out. I'm dating a wonderful girl, and I want to tell people, but my fear of being out keeps me from singing it from the hills Sound of Music style. As a solution, I'm taking babysteps.
everysecondtuesday had the honor being the first to know :) Who knows? Maybe one day, I'll work up the courage and tell my mom.
